Recently I got to visit a dear friend of mine. She used to live very close to me and when she wasn’t travelling we did a lot of fun things together. She’s a fabulous connector and one of her greatest strengths is when she meets you, she remembers you and important details about you. And she really does this in a very sincere way. I’ve learned a lot from just being around her and how she interacts with others.
Sadly several years ago she moved back east and we don’t get to see each other as much as we used to. We talk about once a week or so but it’s not the same. So when we get the chance to get together, it’s really a treat for me. This is the third time this year we’ve been able to be in the same room, which I think is the most since she’s lived here. My flight got in pretty early on a Saturday and since her boyfriend was playing golf that day, we had several hours of uninterrupted time together. And it was just like I’d seen her yesterday. Only we didn’t pause to take a breath for about 3 hours! Once we got caught up on the personal stuff we had lots of current events and political topics to microscopically examine. We have pretty similar beliefs and philosophies so it’s like hearing yourself talk sometimes. And when we disagree, it’s always done in an informed respectful way. Which is so wonderful and sadly not always easy to find these days. My Mom really gets a kick out of listening to us talk to each other, I don’t see it but she thinks it’s funny.
The bestest thing about this relationship is how non-judgmental, how supportive and how loving it is. We truly pick up right where we left off with no recriminations if it’s been several weeks or someone forgot to call back or couldn’t talk earlier. Friendships like that are absolutely golden. Not all of my relationships have been this way and when I started to find friends who were, it really cast a harsh light on relationships that might have been more toxic than not. I let those people move on without me and I’m ok with having done that. Having fewer but really awesome people in your life is more important to me than having lots of not-so-great acquaintances cluttering up the space.