Did you ever go through your day, just doing what you do everyday, then get home that night and when you are putting on your pj’s you look down and say, now where did I get that bruise? I don’t remember banging into something. Did I get hit in passing? It’s going to be an ugly one, going to stick around for days. Hmmm. That’s a puzzler.
Those are the bruises we can see. We don’t remember when we got them but we know we have them. They’ll go through their phases of healing, first black, then green then this putrid yellow, finally just fading into nothing, no trace it was ever there. It occurred to me, as I looked at 2 I swear got from a virus in the air, that there are other bruises we can’t see and may not know are there. Like the one I have from the oh-so-wonderful fellow castmate, who as I was about to step on stage for my first line, said “please stop stepping on my lines”. Wow. Talk about sabotage. Then there are the ones that are long buried, the ones from the nasty kids at school that shape how we act with others. Or the ones from our family that were meant to help us (in their minds) but instead cut us most cruelly and undermined our self confidence. Or the partner whose idea of supporting you is to mention how few feature films ever get made and how many more porn films are made, so maybe you should go into that field. These are the ones that are the hardest to heal. Oh we’ve buried them, but they come up at the most inopportune times and smack us right between the eyes with their fresh, ugly purpleness. Healing those takes a lot of patience, understanding and forgiveness. And knowledge that it may come around again to smack you with a 2 x 4 in the gut. But they get better. And easier to deal with and dismiss. Hopefully they’ll one day just fade into nothing.